Minimalism and Finding My Soul
-We have been reading the book Present Over Perfect for my Unstuffed Inner Circle Book Club and this quote struck me and felt so relatable:
“Whatever you’ve achieved, wherever you’ve arrived–a dollar amount in the bank, a number on the scale, that award or promotion or perfect house– whatever it is, if in order to get there you laid your soul down, believing it was unnecessary baggage, or an acceptable sacrifice, I’m here to tell you, with great love and tenderness, that you’re wrong.”
-Inspired me to today’s topic which is all about applying minimalism to my life helped me truly find and reconnect to my soul and living a more purposeful life.
-Most days I am one of those people that other people seem to not really believe…
I hear all the time that I’m zenned out, or like my sister recently said, “Buddah without the belly.”
We recently went to a hotel with a water slide with our kids and the first thing I did was go down the waterslide, and I screamed and laughed the whole way.
–I saw another mom look at me and later she was going down the waterslide. I felt like maybe I gave her permission…permission to be happy, to be joyful, to be a kid again.
–I think we detach from this inner guide, this light, this joy…
Let me tell you sometimes I have to stop and remember that I wasn’t always this way. When I pause and remember who I was that person seems so sad, so foregin to me. She was angry, hurt, bruised, and just constantly on the verge of eruption…
Minimalism saved me from all of that. SLOWLY and steps at a time.
I didn’t just clean out my pantry and find myself being a whole new person.
It was a gradual letting go.
First I had to understand that my soul, that eternal being that I am – that is bigger than all of the STUFF I owned. My stuff quite literally meant nothing in the grand scheme of my life and my soul and what I was born to do.
So I started detaching and getting rid of it in a desperate attempt to find who I really was – because even though I thought I did – I didn’t really know.
3 questions for you to use minimalism to locate a bigger part of you:
What is that thing you want for your life that you keep doubting is possible?
Not just to be happy.
Not for your kids to be healthy.
We all want that stuff.
That one thing that you probably instantly come to your head but brush it off going, “ no, that one’s too ridiculous…too out there…” That one.
Sit in the emotions you feel when you think about that thing.
Does it feel amazing? Does it feel like you are kidding yourself?
*2 things: Ask yourself why not you? And start finding someone who did it…and maybe even had a harder go of it than you.
What is the bare minimum required for you to achieve this?
Don’t think in terms of money, think in terms of stuff.
Bare minimum, what do you actually need.
Then look around you…what DON’T you need to live that life? What isn’t necessary? Probably most things
How do I keep this dream impossible?
Believe it or not we sabotage our own dreams all the time.
We spend all of our money.
We keep ourselves busy.
We do things that make us look noble but really distract us from acting on a bigger call.
**For you it might start with clearing out your closet and finding that inner peace that comes with a cleared space and mind.
Or maybe you’ll see it how I did – that you have something bigger you are being called to and if you keep yourself slowed down and overwhelmed by caring about or managing too much, you are never going to get to where you want to go my friend.
Now, I know a lot of my listeners and followers and such are in the 60+ category and/or the mom category. This is for both of you –
If you think it is too late, you’re wrong. If you think you’re too busy – you might be right mamas…don’t put too much on your plate. Make sure you tune into next week’s podcast because it is for you – BUT mamas, seniors…IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO START LIVING A LIFE ALIGNED WITH WHO THE FUCK YOU WANT TO BE!
My dad died at 43, my step dad died at 63 and I bet you know someone who died young too and you had this gut wrenching realization that they lost out on so much life – YOU HAVE THEIR YEARS!!! Those years they lost, those years they were robbed of that you cry over…LIVE FOR THEM. They would want you to. I want you to.